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Most people who come to consensual slavery or boyhood have a deep, inner need to serve. They will crawl across broken glass to fill this craving, and often make poor choices in selecting an Owner. To make matters worse, men are often led to service by their hard dicks, and we all know that while men may have two heads, they only have a large enough blood supply for one at a time.

When a person does find a Master, there is often a period of intense service and (possibly) sexual activity, blotting out all other considerations. This blissful ‘honeymoon’ period can last for weeks, months, and even (with luck) years.

But the time may come when the thrill of slavery wears thin and life becomes routine. Many needs may begin to conflict with service, such as working a job, and a slave may find themselves becoming un-centered and of less use to the Owner. A good protocol will definitely help keep the magic of slavery going, but i believe that more is needed.

Personally, i feel myself quite lucky in that a very spiritual man owns me. Master Steve insists that all His slaves find some spiritual practice to incorporate into their daily lives and actively assists us in doing so. The benefits are great for all: a happy, centered and spiritual slave is a much better slave overall and more pleasing to their Master.

But let me take a moment to define what i mean by spirituality. i feel that this is a state of being where the person has knowledge of their inner self, has a high sense of self-esteem and can see or feel the presence of the Divine in life. Master Steve likes to say that Religion is man’s way of reaching the Divine while Spirituality is the Divine’s way of getting man to reach the Divine! One can be religious and not spiritual, or spiritual and not religious. And one can be both spiritual and religious! Religion, be it Neo-Pagan, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Jewish, etc. can be a strong force in a person’s spiritual life, and bring great joy (as Druidry does to me), but it is not absolutely necessary.

So how does one ‘become’ spiritual? i know of slaves who feel that they don’t have a spiritual bone in their bodies. Perhaps they simply haven’t found that ‘bone’ yet. One can only have a spiritual life when the time is right and one is ready for it. But for those of us who suspect that there may be more to life than the physical, certain techniques can often help.

One tried and true way is through meditation. There are lots of books and on-line resources on the subject for the beginner. The important thing is to have a regular practice. Meditation broadens one’s understanding of the spirit and paves the way for transformation. While a person can have epiphanies from SM or just due to events in life, they tend to fade away and not stick without a strong, meditative practice as a spiritual foundation.

Another method, building upon the meditative foundation, is to perform rituals. With practice, these train the mind and soul to open to the universe at will, giving one a strong sense of belonging. i perform two types of ritual myself. The more common type is what i call my vanilla rituals, such as when I perform my Druid / pagan rituals (example: with the smoke of burning sage every morning). The other type is the ecstatic type of ritual that I perform with Master. This can be a needle scene of 99 needles (W/we were doing this when I experienced Divine presences and an extraordinary connection to the whole universe), a Ball Dance (where the participants suspend bells, balls or weights from temporary piercings and dance to drums) or even the Lakota Sioux Sun Dance. With these ecstatic rituals, the piercings cause the body to produce a great quantity of endorphins, and these little chemicals can make one quite high. But they can also lead to major shifts in consciousness, especially when there is a good meditative foundation to stand upon.

Now i’m not suggesting that everyone run out and get pierced! This is an extreme form of ecstatic practice. But i do recommend that everyone begin a spiritual practice to help them find their centered place in the universe. It is my believe that we are all spiritual beings who are having a great, physical experience, and i find that when i integrate the two of them together, i feel truly centered and happy.

About the Author:

slave kirk has been a trainer at Butchmanns SM Academy, and now its successor, the APEX Academy, since 1999.

In 2000, he won the title of International slave when his Master won International Master, and the two of T/them traveled all over the country presenting on Mastery/slavery as well as spirituality during T/their title year.

slave kirk was also a presenter at the 2003 South Plains LeatherFest